"You’re fine. Don’t be such a little boy."
"Jesus, that was scary. I screamed like a little boy."
"Every girl needs a strong mother in her life. You don’t want them throwing like a boy by the time they reach high school."
"Honey, let Mommy teach the girls how to box. Don’t you want to play "prince" with the other boy next door? This is too rough for you."
"We’ve actually never had a male president, kiddo. Just 44 women. Maybe someday."
"Boys are nurturing and loving. They were created by God to make the home. Their role of lifting up girls in prayer as leaders is crucial."
"Can your son babysit on Saturday? What, your daughter? I mean, sure, I guess, but I just figured being a boy and all, he’d enjoy it more and be better at it."
"I’ll tell you this: woe be unto the high school girl who dates my son without a little chat first. I’ll be greeting her at the door with a shotgun and a smile."
"Ma’am, your son is showing too much skin. Does he have a father at home who can show him how to dress? It’s just distracting the girls and keeping them from learning."
"Boys *are* equal to girls, just in a different way."
"Did you hear he said she raped him? This is what these little dicks do; they cry rape and ruin the life of a good gal. Just because he got drunk and regrets what happened doesn’t mean he can claim he was raped."
"I just don’t see why some women find it insulting that they’d be asked to change their last name."
"Would you change your last name?"
"I don’t know."
"You don’t know, or you don’t want to say?"
This week is the 20th anniversary of Kurt Cobain’s death. A lot will be said about his well-deserved place in music history, but more should be said about his sense of social justice.
Cobain identified as a feminist in a time when few women in *popular* music (emphasis on popular), let alone men, would publicly express disgust for misogyny.
On an LP his band Nirvana put out, he had an inscription placed in it telling listeners that if they’re sexist or homophobic or racist, he doesn’t want them as fans.
Cobain also slyly wrote feminist lyrics in many songs, mocking hypermasculine behavior as destructive and idiotic. He also mocked rape culture in his video for “Smells Like Teen Spirit” by having a rebellious cheerleader wear a scarlet letter on her uniform.
Additionally, he publicly supported woman punk bands, praising their artistry and giving them a signal boost in an industry hostile to women who rock.
Also: did I mention he wore dresses like it was no big deal? Gender roles annoyed him, and he made a point to highlight how they’re unnecessary and harmful.
This was a person ahead of his time, and although we can’t forget women who have been fighting sexism in the music industry for decades, we’d also be mistaken not to honor Cobain.
On a personal note, he’s a popular figure that’s made it easier for me to be comfortable with who I am, and I owe him a great deal for that.
One more thing about Kurt Cobain: at several shows, even after Nirvana made it big, he stopped the band mid-song because he saw women being groped in the audience.
He would have sexually-predatory men thrown out of the venue and made it clear to the audience that behavior is unacceptable.
If that’s not badass, I don’t know what is.
Rest in peace.
"It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me."
- Warsan Shire
I’m going to get backlash for this, but I will not apologize for this tweet. Hugo Schwyzer has a history, among other things, of domestic violence and being abusive toward women online, particularly women of color.
I believe in change and redemption, and it is clear to me he is interested in neither. Do not support his work, and do not fail to hold him accountable for his track record.
Reportedly, Fred Phelps, founder of Westboro Baptist Church, is on his death bed. I feel there’s going to be a lot of you-may-not-like-me-but-at-least-I’m-not-that from some conservatives.
I want to be absolutely clear: Just because you don’t picket funerals with horribly offensive signs does not mean you are a reasonable person.
Every time you say LGBTQ folks can’t marry or adopt, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you shame a boy for “acting like a girl”, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you push forward the childish, idiotic assertion that men naturally make better leaders than women, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you attempt to regulate a woman’s sexuality or her clothes or her behavior or her body, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you put blame on a rape victim, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you catcall a woman and then scream at her that she’s a “bitch” or “cunt” because she gets agitated or feels threatened, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you dismiss the violent death of a black child because they “look like a thug”, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Every time you equate Islam with terrorism wholesale, you are no better than Fred Phelps.
Please don’t attempt to excuse your own bigotry and ignorance because this person and his clan are more colorful and sensational in their hatred.
Hatred is hatred, regardless of how “obnoxious” it happens to be.
If anything, you are WORSE than Fred Phelps because your maturity in other areas of life lend your backwards views credibility.
Stop this charade, and start examining where you need to grow.
- Charles Clymer
There’s nothing wrong with telling a girl or woman she’s beautiful, but I would rather spend that moment telling her she’s powerful. #InternationalWomensDay